Slowly realizing that your marriage could be heading toward its end is unsettling and upsetting for many people each year. Knowing that you're just one of the people exploring divorce may not ease any pain, but because it's not uncommon, there are actions others have taken which you might find to be helpful now. These preparation recommendations can provide surer footing when you're ready to bring your marriage to a close:
Even if you feel mentally stable most of the time, divorce can affect you to the core. You may find yourself exhausted, drained and unable to act the way you'd normally act. That can cause increased arguments, trouble at work and other negative outcomes. To handle things maturely, therapy is recommended.
In therapy, you may first work on deciding if anything more could be attempted as far as marriage goes. You'll then work with the mental health expert to properly communicate, react and process any of your spouse's behaviors in a way that won't further degrade the relationship. The supportive environment permits you to deal with loneliness, anger, feeling overwhelmed and other strong emotions. Your therapist can listen as you plan your future aloud. Therapy is almost certain to help you tackle the situation as positively and calmly as possible.
Many divorcing people find that much of their anger is related to the way money will be divided and allocated post-divorce. Whether you think you deserve more money in the divorce settlement or feel that your spouse is taking money from you unfairly, the sooner you adjust to your new financial situation, the better.
While the ultimate details of your divorce are unknown now, start planning for any scenario. Will you need higher-paying work? Will you live in an apartment on the outskirts of town so that you can better afford food and similar necessities? Taking concrete action, such as contacting realtors and completing job applications, can make an uncertain future seem like something you can somewhat control.
Notes that detail the chores, bills, child-related tasks and purchases you make can prove handy when your divorce settlement is first drafted. If you are the person who does most of the grocery shopping with your own money or is the primary person responsible for getting the children to their sports or school club commitments, that can affect the way the settlement shakes out.
Your divorce attorney should have a few more recommendations for handling divorce. Work with them and remember these recommendations to get yourself a divorce agreement you can accept without falling apart during the process