Divorcing a narcissist is no easy feat. This personality type likes to fight and play games with other people's emotions, so what better place for them to play than in the legal system?
Thankfully, just as long as there have been people who are narcissistic there have been lawyers who have developed tips and tricks to deal with their inevitable irritations during the divorce process.
Whether you are divorcing a narcissist or someone with a difficult personality, these tips will help you:
Tip: Plan to Discredit the Narcissist's Lies with Written Proof of Facts
If your ex is truly a narcissist, then they believe that they are above the law. While most people won't lie in court proceedings because they are afraid of the potential consequences if they are caught, narcissists don't have any problem lying. After all, they are the smartest person in the room so clearly no one will catch on to their lies.
One common lie in a divorce proceeding is the value of belongings the other person wants. You can easily dispel any lies by providing the court with written documentation to back up your claims. For example, if you plan to keep a very expensive piece of jewelry or artwork, then have it appraised so there is no question the true value.
Tip: Expect Your Divorce to Take Longer Than Other Peoples'
Since people with narcissistic personality disorder often request endless delays or file piles of motions and extraneous paperwork in an effort to show how they are in charge of the process, you should expect your divorce to take a longer period of time than other people you know. Unless your ex has moved on or really wants out of your marriage for some reason, you should expect it to become one delay and one drama after another. If you prepare for this and decide at the onset that you won't let it get to you, then you will fare a lot better during the process.
Tip: Go "Zero Contact" and Seek Counseling
Finally, when you are divorcing a narcissist, you need to stop talking to them. You should go "no contact" and refer all of their communication to your divorce attorney. In addition, since marriage to a narcissist often involves various types of abuse, it is important you seek the help of a qualified therapist or mental health professional to help you get through the divorce and move on to your new happier life.
Contact a law firm, like Madison Law Firm PLLC, for more help.